I’ve reached that point in my (not-so-long) life where it seems like everyone is getting engaged, married, or having babies.
It’s giving me anxiety.
No, seriously. I get a little panicked when I see people that I’ve known since the seventh grade getting married. They’re marrying people that they’ve been dating for as long as Jarrod and I have been together, sometimes even less! All our friends joke that we’ll be getting married and having babies soon. I’ll admit, it would be super fun to plan a wedding (and who doesn’t want the world’s best excuse to go on extended shopping trips?), but I just don’t understand what the rush is. I’m 23… I know nothing about life! I have no idea where I’ll be living a year from now. I’m very much not interested in being responsible for another human being, so I doubt that children will be appearing on the horizon for a long while (so you can relax, Mama).
I sometimes wonder if there’s something wrong with me that I don’t have a strong compulsion to get married young. I’ve never felt like I would be a young bride – 28 has always had a good ring to it. It seems like everyone I know is ready to put a ring on it ASAP. All Jarrod’s friends are exactly opposite this, of course, but they’re primarily men so I feel like they’re probably not the best focus group.
Don’t get me wrong about all of this. I’ve been planning my dream wedding since I was 12 and can tell you exactly what kind of dress I think I’ll wear. I’ve been to Blue Nile and designed this beaut:
I also love the idea of a vintage engagement ring – I love that the ring has its own story and that you’re giving a second life to a ring. That, and they just don’t make ’em like they used to. A great source for window shopping that I’ve found: Antique Engagement Rings
Isn’t that stunning?
The thing is, at the end of the day, it’s a piece of jewellery. It’s also one hell of a promise to be making when you’re still learning about yourself and doing a lot of growing up! I have changed so much since I was 19, so I can only imagine that I’ll be a very different person still in another few years. It seems unfair to promise anything right now, you know?
In case you couldn’t tell, marriage and life promising confuses the heck out of me. Which is a good sign that I’m not ready quite yet, don’t you think?